My man put naked pictures of himself on a couple of websites. He told me that it's not showing his face so it's not a big deal. I am horrified! This discovery has left me feeling devastated and completely disrespected in our relationship. It is hard to believe that he would do something like this without thinking about how it would affect me. The casual way he explained it only adds to my horror as I try to make sense of our situation right now.

I think that what he is doing is very wrong and I would never do anything like that if I was in a committed relationship with someone. You're a guy, so I thought you might have some suggestions about what I can do. I don't mind him being on the Internet, etc., but not in a way that disrespects me and our relationship. This boundary matters deeply to me and crossing it hurts more than he seems to realize at all.

Come on, are you serious? This is a case of you accepting the unacceptable. Is he advertising his package? What kind of websites are these? It seems like a clear sign that something is off in how he views your shared intimacy and trust. You deserve to have your feelings validated instead of dismissed so lightly by someone who claims to care. This kind of behavior often points to deeper issues with commitment and respect that should not be ignored in a healthy partnership.

The beauty of a relationship is that your share your bodies with each other and only each other. You don't share yourself with the world. Tell him to remove it or get out of the relationship. Something is not right here and addressing it directly is the only way to protect your dignity and the integrity of the partnership you value so much every single day. Standing firm on this boundary will show him how seriously you take your relationship.